last friday's KUROSAGI クロサギ was awesome! not the movie, but YAMAPI~ 6$S is worth it cus i got to stare at his adorable face for almost 2 hrs!
sometimes i feel that i'm too harsh to people. especially when i make a sarcastic remark that never really go through my though process. i.e. stupid words that blurt out of my mouth subconsciously/unintentionally.
but these are the words that i feel true to. they are a reflection of what i am. i am a person who like to make snide remarks. not that i'm MEAN, but that is what i am.
grawr, why is it so hard to put what i want to say into words?
lets try it this way, i'll get my point across through another one of the r/s theory i was inspired to think of.
warning: super long post of not properly classified information
**ALL KINDS OF RELATIONSHIP (part 2)**
it's quite a miracle actually, being together with another human. the effort of getting along for a long period of time with someone that is NOT you.
it IS such a burden to continuously be sensitive to other people's reaction. even more tiring if you are out to find a way to please both parties - him/her and you.
no matter how similar the couple may be, there are still personal views that may conflict with each other.
VIEWS! OPINIONS! BODY LANGUAGES! EXPRESSIONS! WORDS!
these are the things that commonly go between couples.
no? how about misunderstandings, petty quarrels, big quarrels, different way of living, different habits, and different religious views.
all those stuff are a combination of VOBLEW. (abbreviation for views, opinions, body languagem expressions, and words.) hahas, i'm a genius.
combinations!
e.g. misunderstandings: can arise from words from other people, like rumors. person A sees your darling with girl X and thinks that is his mistress. person A spreads word about seeing your darling with girl X. spread and spread, opinions thrown in here and there, info lacking here and there. misunderstanding formed.
the most common difference i noticed people tend to blame is the "GIRL & GUY THINKINGS"
why do girl think differently from a guy?
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e.g. briefly adapted from tv show(some of you may have seen it before)
girl loves guy because of his loyalty to his friends and devotedness to her.
however, because this guy's loyalty to friends, he always run off to help them without a doubt anytime day and night. girl thus felt neglected.
and finally, being the helpful guy he is, some other girl fell in love with him. (suicidal/marriage damaging/super jealous kind somemore)
girl knows about jealous girl. had some face-to-face trouble with her before also. guy clarifies about the matter. girl 100% believed the guy's explanation that he and jealous girl got no affair.
it was the wedding day of the couple.
*phone rings, from jealous girl*
GUY: what do you want! today is my wedding! don't come and create trouble! Jgirl: i'm dying...
*clicks... toot toot. phone dead*
GUY: omg, i need to attend to her. she sounds like she is dying. GIRL: but today is our wedding! GUY: i'll be in time for it. don't worry. we WILL get married
*kisses her on forehead and left*
the jealous girl was indeed in danger, wrist bleeding, face pale and all. can't believe she tried to kill herself. super stupid. lols, damn bitches who can't stand seeing other people happy.
guy rushed her to the hospital. but due to the jam, he got off the cab and walked pass the jam area.
suay suay! he was filmed on TV when the news was reporting on the traffic jam. =.= and the guests and bride saw it.
when he finally got to the wedding venue, the pastor left, guests unhappy and gossiping. and his wedding suit was stained with blood from the girl.
the bride called off the wedding. swearing that she would have nothing to do with the guy again.
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now here is the question...
WHY did the bride called off the wedding? Option A: She believe there actually IS something going on between the two of them, or else guy would not throw her aside to and run to find the girl when he knows she's in danger. Option B: She felt totally embarrassed by him for letting others know she may not be the most important person in his life and angry at him for ruining the important wedding. Option C: She felt neglected because guy never put her in the first place as compared to other people. She don't feel enough love from guy.
If you chose A, you're jus a bystander looking at things in the general and most common stereotypic way.
If you chose B, you're just someone with too strong pride. are you sure you really love her/him?
If you chose C, you're someone who really love and believe in the one you love.
the guy never understood why the girl swore to end their relationship that way. can u understand why?
EMPATHY the capacity to recognize or understand another's state of mind or emotion.
often characterized as the ability to "put oneself into another's shoes", or to in some way experience the outlook or emotions of another being within oneself.
NOTE: can be 'used' for compassionate or cruel behavior (above definition taken from wikipedia)
this is really the most amazing quality any human can possess.
now, put YOURSELF into MY SHOES.
can you understand how i feel when unconsciously shoot you with a sarcastic comment?
e.g. (it jus happened not long ago while i was tuitoring mervin accounting)
MERVIN: eh you so pro at accounting, how i wish i can marry your BRAIN! QUEEN.W: too bad, my brain says it deserves a better brain than yours.
now, what am i feeling after i said that comment?
Option 1: HAH! that was a nice suan-ning sentence. Option 2: oops! that sounded too mean, no offence! Option 3: that will teach him to think my brain's standard is so low. Option 4: can't be bothered . . .
correct answer: 1&2 oops!! that sounded too mean. lols. no offence ar, but it's just so nice to suan ppl.
though mervin commented i broke his heart, but hey, i dont really mean it so dont take it to heart la kays.
its a lot of fun when people knows you don't really mean it and laughs together with you. however! there are people who really took it to heart and bore a grudge.
talking about grudges, i bet i'm one of the few that can remember grudges very well, especially when money is involved. e.g. like elieen lam frm my kindergarden still owes me 20cents, calista from primary 6 owes me the 20$S that i paid for the cake for rachel's birthday but did not buy in the end because rachel cancelled it.
MONEYFACE QUEEN? yea, i admit i am. but when i owe people money, i will never forget about it UNLESS the payor insisted. then of cus i'll write that off and register it as a favour done by payor.
it's the same when it comes to relationship too. be it friendship or love-love kinds.
just one unintentionalsuan-ning comment or idontcarecusitsnotmybusiness comment can result in a huge quarrel because the other party interpretted it the wrong way.
and when one party lose control, the other party will soon lose his/her cool trying to explain! and normally it either solves the matter with a still a bit angry "hmfp, next time don't like that la" or super angry "you are so mean! you don't care about me!" ending.
and eventually one party must apologize for doing the *wrong* thing.
*wrong* thing
what do i mean by *wrong* thing?
UNLESS the mistake is clearly yours... the blind also can see you are in the wrong kind of wrong... NO ONE. and i mean NO ONE would love to apologize, say sorry, conpensate the other party willingly.
simply because, people always think what they feel is right. WHY?
because different people have different views on different things in life!
what is your opinion on getting into a relationship? Option A: it's pointless actually. a graveyard. i can't imagine myself in one. *yucks* Option B: i found my soulmate. i love her/him forever. *mwarks* Option C: i'm not ready to settle yet. i mean, why settle for a tree when you can have the whole forest! *hahahahhas*
what is your opinion of life? Option A: it's just a game. relax and play! enjoy life to the fullest! Option B: it's like a business. study hard, work hard. earn the money and enjoy luxuries in future. Option C: it's damn boring. i can't wait to die.
i'm not doing a personality test here. jus general views i gathered after weeks of randoming around. hahas.
now you may think... "all i need to do is to jus find someone with the same views as me! than maybe i can get a longlasting r/s?"
but that is still a NO. it's impossible.
how many views can one person hold? COUNTLESS
how many similar views can you have with another person? unable to know. it'll take a lot of effort and time to go around asking one by one to actually find the 100% compatible person.
how consistent can your 100% be? people are easily affected by friends, media, environment around them. views may change.
HUMANS CHANGED!
all in all.
what i hope to find is not jus the 100% compatible friend/companion... because i feel that if people like me exist and come together. the world would end pretty soon without others knowing what happen. lols.
i want someone who can accept me 100%... evil side, good side. angry side, good temper side. mean side, kind side.
